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There is this guy that i basically grew up with and it's your typical best frenn story...We tell each other everything!!! (and I mean EVERYTHING) hella gurls have been trynna get with him for as long as i can remember. We would give each other advice on each other's relationship. We juss hella coo and KNOW each other!!

It's been a month now since me and my boyfrIend of 3 1/2 yrs broke up... We still on good terms and still got mad love for one another. He basically wants me to wait on him til he gets his fam's stuff str8ned out so we can start fresh! Right off the bacc i agreed cuz i myself am tooo busy with just too much.

Being a leader of my youth i have many responsibilities i have to uphold. My best frenn being the lifesaver that he is has been coming around to help me with pretty much EVERYTHiNG. We lost touch for a while cuz we were both busy but now i see him like every single day for youth practice, and he's not even part of my church.

So here's the issue. He juss told me yesterday that his feelings for me have changed! He said that Im the only girl that really gets him and hears him out! (Well uh duh we're bf's!) The thing is that im beginning to feel the same exact way! He was telling me that ever since we got bacc on tracc with each other he's been a whole lot happier! Same goes for me.

My heart is still with my ex but at the same time im lovin the time i spend with my best frenn!! Im stucc and i dont know exactly what to do or say. I love my bestfrenn but my feelings for him are starting to change as well. I dont want to start anything with him and it doesnt go well and then i lose him all together.

1sa:
What am i to do???
What would you do?

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in the long term "What is it that you want out of it?".. children, wedding ring, acknolwedgement, these type of questions, you've gotta ask yourself, plus there's this thing that goes like this "What goes around comes around?".. so, if I were you, I'll wait until you've made certain your x isn't gonna bag you a differ..

there's a difference between best - friend boy'girl, and best-friend boy/boy,
I mean, with the boy'girl, the likely case that you're meant to be together, is because you might of grew up together and don't find yourself going there, until you hit pewpurity, cause that just adds emotions and feelings to your hormones..

When that doesn't happen the friendship boy'girl continues onto another level, call: sisterhood, where you're best-friend boy'girl becomes the centre of your girl'girl times together with actual girls, you know.

but if the case where he found LOVE and happyness with some1 other than you, it'll be sad if you carried all em' feelings around and he had you at sister-girl.

I don't know, GOOD LUCK - there's evil and there isn't out there in the World, you figer out for yourself where you fit and feel comfortable in, LOVE U! - stay blessed.

The worse case is, you get it on with your best friend boy'girl and down the track, he wanna be all hard and tell you he was married before, that's why he hadn't seen you in a while, he's got children with that b' and he needs comfort, probably doesn't know what he wants, and needs his best-friend girl'friend for advise, be a mom for once and not a sister, maybe, I don't know.. xD

GUYS are often your friend, because they see potential in you, they see that if they can help you become something more CLEAR to others eyes, it's no supprise, when you start praising them to the round World, to the Heavens and even the Earth & been greatful for ever praising you, there's connections beyond any1's understanding, hahaa..

hahaa, sorry, I give up.. hahaa ):, .. peace!
lol... Thanks blurr!!! hmmmm i hadnt really thought about the questions u juss asked! And yes i know karma very well!! but yeah i get what you mean with the whole boy'gurl kinda best frenns. And now that i think about It i think im a keep him around as juss my best frenn! we're good at it! lol thanks for the advice blurr!! have a great and blessed day!!!
yeah, sorry 'sis', I don't have them type of sincarios ):, my best-friends in guys are my 1st cousins and we don't think that ways towards each-other, but if it's any help..

My kids (.) is indian and with the indian ways, I've been told, they are already SET UP with some1 for life, from when they were born type of thing, we're not together anymore and his such a player, to even have a girl like you in his life, it's kindoff sad and selfish in my point of view, cause; - he gets to get advise from you and then, she could potentially be his partner from parents, since birth and I have no foot say in that, but a feeling call LOVE in that case and where the children is concern it's a fighting battle, I'm better off just moving to my own race of people for a friend.. hehee..

like, I said "I don't know", .. when children are involve in a situation it's complicated, you don't want to hurt your children by telling them these type of things, when there isn't any children, oh' please 'sis', take it NICE and SLOW and make it last 4ever!

Thankx, takecare of yourself, see you around .. (:, xx`
nise way to put it Barry.. i likes ... and i agree ;o)
:thumbup: AWESOME KING :)
love your predicament dat ur in as many times i maself have been fru dat kinda fing
i alwaze turn to da good ole bible to help me out + wen i read da book of hosea,dat tells me god alwaze has a plan +hes alwaze got my bak-i don't hve feelings 4 my ex but i'm constantly reminded via holy spirit dat shes a child of da lord +treat others da way you would like to be treated +fruout all da rubble + pain i've gone thru,thank the lord that the umbilical cord between me +god is not cut-my advice is to go with your heart becoz da lords way is not our way(isiah 55:8,9)-we all make mistakes but da difference between us +da world is god looks after us(psalms112:5-7)
He was telling me that ever since we got bacc on tracc with each other he's been a whole lot happier! Same goes for me.

My heart is still with my ex

I love my bestfrenn but my feelings for him are starting to change as well. I dont want to start anything with him and it doesnt go well and then i lose him all together.

You are sure sending out mix signals..LMAO.. which means you are actually correct.. You are stuck..hahahaha..

If you are concerned with losing your bf, then the only thing to do is be with him..lol.. there is always a reason for everything, why you and your boy friend broke up, may be it wasn't meant to be..lol.. but Fonoti is correct go with the one you love.. So if you love them both, oh well I guess you have to change religion and marry them both..hahahaha.
hahahaa, hahaa... [^]

The KEY ingredients - is a secret endougch call "CHOCOLATE".. hahaa..

My mum has heaps of Samoan Girlfriends around our area, the kind of ones that have afakasi children, but - there's this one little girl, who's older than my youngest, born on the same year, but she was born in the beginning of the year and my baby was born near the end. They abso PLAY like they're getting set up for life, type of thing.

& as a Mother, who I must admit like to PAMPER and BABY the youngest "Mummies Boy", there are times, I get sort-off offended by there innocent games, & then - "How the parents would feel", cause this little girl her father doesn't live with them & she visits her dad and his new family.

She askes so much questions about parents separation, just like boys when they wanna know, what happended to their dad, very smart for her age, you know 5-6yrs old, and she has found a bond with my boys to connect on.

I LOVE IT, she's so beautiful and funny, that as a Mother raising boys and no girls, I can't help but to be greatful to other afakasi parents, for up-raising there kids around us, it's complicated, but it's cute at the same time, to watch kids grow up and b-friend each-other, have feelings, what not that parents then can reflect on and hiv too..

yeah - NAAH, we up-raise them to always be there for each-other, shear a bond of growning together [brother/sister], just never in that unsenseable way, 'even' .. you know? .. Okay, just wanted to shear - thankx.. (:, xx`
Now you got something that you must encourage and nurture..LMAO...

choooooohoooooooooooo
yeah, I'll LIKE TO CALL (IT) - trust! - small [T]... hehee,


- - - amen - - -


well, I won't call it mine - capital - l,.. hahaa, haha..
se pigi uma le lua..... your ex-bf only deserves 2 days but give the rest of the week to your best friend...... just dont get caught!!! hahahaha! Ms. Tivz can probably give you some pointers on, "HOW NOT TO GET CAUGHT"..... hahahahha! se kala jokes... Follow your fatu is all i can tell you right now...
Wow!!! thanks you guys!!! really lovin and appreciatin the feed bacc!!! love the scriptures as well from *Fred. You guys all have great points and thoughts!
*blurr: yeah sis im juss happy no kids are involved cuz that woulda made it harder la lea..lol but im glad that thru it all you still holdin yo head high!! thanks!!
*MzTivz: i like n agree too! lol
*King Fonoti: thanks i will!!! :)
*Fred: Thanks for addin in the *word wit your advice. God is always a bygg part in the decisions that i make and i know that he has a plan for me and who i am to spend the rest of my life wit!! Im glad your still connected wit him!!
LOL @*JJw & *MO8: Thanks for the laff and yes i know the whole mixed signals thing but hey it happens.. lol im only human. I was a bit confused at the time but after reading all the replies and really thinking things thru my mind and my heart are bacc on the same page. :) Thanks to you all for your feedbaccs!!!

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